Excerpted from the Summer 2019 edition of Communities, “Sexual Politics”—full issue available for download (by voluntary donation) here.
Sexual Politics: Issue #183 ● Summer 2019
FIC News: Introducing the New FIC By Cynthia Tina
A new logo, new style, new website, and new name―the Foundation for Intentional Community―reflect the transformations within the FIC.
Notes from the Editor: Introducing this Issue By Chris Roth
Sharing the truth is not always easy, but as #MeToo has shown, breaking the silence is the first step toward healing and toward the evolution of healthier sexual politics.
Publisher’s Note: Cooperative Groups, the FIC, and Sexual Politics: Sharing, Learning, Healing, Persisting By Sky Blue
In trying to undo generations of conditioning and trauma, we need to start with the mistakes, learn from them, learn how to love a little more, and try, try again.
Community Accountability: The Struggles, Challenges, and Hope for Community Action on Sexual Assault By Amanda Rain
When we think of sexual assault and boundary violations, it is common to think not in my community, or the person I know wouldn’t do that. As a result, our communities become especially vulnerable to predatory behavior.
Effective Community Justice By Anonymous
“It wasn’t the first time someone I knew had raped me, but it was the only time I had an adequate response from my friends and community.” A rape survivor living in community recounts her story.
Sexual Misconduct in the Sphere of Power: The Nexus of Gender, Intimacy, and Discrimination By LK
An unwanted, rebuffed sexual advance from a previously trusted community leader spirals into numerous, serious consequences in the victim’s personal and professional life.
A Tangled Web: Sex at Zendik Farm By Helen Zuman
Was Wulf scheming, from the beginning, to gain sexual access to nearly every post-pubescent female on the Farm? Perhaps, perhaps not; either way, he got it. But that didn’t translate into “free love” for the rank and file.
- Sounds Like a Fairytale
Sex Positivity in the New Culture Movement By Crystal Farmer
New Culture offers useful tools that can create space for authentic connection, yet its cultural values can be harmful to some abuse survivors.
- A Response to Crystal Farmer
The Triangle of Consent By Crystal Farmer
Recognizing each other’s agency, addressing power imbalances, and communicating with honesty and clarity about sexual desires and boundaries are all essential elements of consent.
Consent in the New Culture Community By Sarah Taub, Indigo Dawn, and Michael Rios
When made safe and consensual through appropriate training, structures, and support, pleasure and sex can form a solid foundation for the joyful and violence-free world we want to create.
- The Consent Team at CFNC Events
- Indigo’s Story
- Dawson Robert’s Story
The Sting of Discrimination: When Polyamory Is Considered a “Red Flag” By Sylvan Bonin
Previously on the path to community acceptance, an applicant experiences for the first time “the direct sting of bigotry, the shock of exclusion based on stereotypes” when her family is denied on the basis of polyamory.
I Survived a Polyamorous Relationship and Learned Some Lessons about Love By Clara Fang
Love is too strong an instinct to be dismissed, repressed, or restricted, even if it is not returned. The author recovers from a soul-crushing breakup.
Pros and Cons of Polyamory By Art
Polyamory comes with abundant advantages as well as numerous downsides; a polyamorist weighs the tradeoffs, grieves disappointment and loss, and celebrates love.
Relationships in a Community-Forming Group By Rachel Lyons
While trying to start a community with poly-friendly collaborators, two monogamous partners achieve greater clarity in their six-year relationship, and end it.
Polyamory at Earthaven By Arjuna da Silva
After years of dealing with love affairs and infidelity by sweeping them under the rug, a community discovers new tools, including ZEGG Forum, for members to share and grow in relationship.
A Project to “Save Love” By Sabine Lichtenfels
Instead of keeping budding infatuations secret from each other, a group decides to make them the object of their research, provoking both widespread prejudice and revelatory discoveries.
The Pronoun Dilemma By Murphy Robinson
A certain kind of trouble was brewing at Pagan Camp. The question: how do you break the divisive enchantment of the Pronoun Curse and cast the spell of the Pronoun Blessing instead?
- What Is Pronoun Culture?
TERF Battles: Women Standing Their Ground By Anonymous
In spite of today’s climate, lesbians and natal females still have wisdom to share, having healed in circles where the shared reality of growing up female is a source of strength.
On Community: Hold Off on Romance When New to Community! By Diana Leafe Christian
If the first thing you do after arriving in a community is to start a relationship, people will honestly wonder: how serious could you be about the community itself?
How to Stop Climate Change and Never Be Lonely Again By Alexis Zeigler
Empowered, sustainable communities are the antidote to isolation. And they are the pivotal technology that makes renewable energy, essential for reversing climate change, actually renewable.
Review: We the People By Diana Leafe Christian
This second edition is another valuable resource for those who know Sociocracy already and want to learn more.
Creating Cooperative Culture: Free Store Magic By Rachel Lyons
By finding a space to exchange goods in your community, you’ll experience the wealth and connection a free store can bring.
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Bodies in Isolation By Amanda Crowell
Being immersed in mainstream culture and isolated from supportive, body-positive communities can prevent choice and body-awareness exploration. But living in a supportive community can make alternative choices and attitudes easier to sustain.
(Article available at dev.ic.org/bodiesinisolation.)
Excerpted from the Summer 2019 edition of Communities, “Sexual Politics”—full issue available for download (by voluntary donation) here.
